When I started blogging, I thought that I will write about my confused mind. But since I do occasional blogging, I decided to update about some significant events in my life. Although recently, I have started feeling about some things quite strongly and wanted to pen down them here. This is one of those thoughts which I have devoted quite a while and it still intrigues me. I will only mention the thought and wont try to force a point of view as I myself is not aware of what is right and what is wrong.
A week back, Teji Bacchan, mother of the superstar Amitabh Bacchan died after prolonged illness. The media, as usual did their hoopla over this very personal affair of the Bacchan family. I happened to see one of the news coverage in which the news reader was constantly stressing on the fact that Teji Bacchan was very proud of her son Amitabh. Suddenly I felt a sense of déjà vu. This was not the first time I was hearing people talking about parents being extremely proud and happy about their children’s achievement. Teji Bacchan, herself an amateur actor, is better known as the wife of literary genius Harivansh Rai Bacchan and mother of Amitabh Bacchan. Was it sufficient for her to be known because of her distinguished husband and son ? Or for that matter, is it sufficient for any father or mother to be satisfied with the success of their children ?
Thinking about it casually, the argument seems banal. The whole perspective depends on person to person. Also, achievements of one’s family members add to the happiness from her/his own achievements. But when I look around, almost all parents are concerned about their children’s achievements, their career has definitely taken a backseat. Though I have also seen the trends changing with parents becoming more and more career oriented, but I am sure at the back of their mind, they must be thinking still about their children’s performance.
I will try to put forth my points more objectively and present two different view points. Though I am quite young and questions concerning parental care should not be bothering me. What intrigues me though is the sudden change in the outlook. People, fresh out of colleges, are raring to go and want to make a mark of their own. But as soon as they settle down, things become altogether different. I agree that the number of responsibilities increase tremendously, but why does their career take a backseat ? Is it that the increased responsibilities force them to change their priorities ? Or do their minds evolve in a different direction at that particular stage of life ? At this point, it is hard for me to imagine that I will ever stop thinking about my career with the same excitement. But looking at every one around me, it seems inevitable.
The second line of thought which fascinates me is the sense of achievement parents get when their daughter/son achieves something. They feel that they have conquered the world and have made their life count. I agree that they will be the happiest to see their children win because they have put in a lot of hard work to make their children capable of performing in such a competitive world. Is this sense of achievement indirect ? Or this is a pay-off of their hard work that they have invested in their children ? Whenever children achieve great heights, I hear parents saying that they have got everything that they ever wanted. Is it really true ? What about their own career and achievement ? In all my arguments, I have tried to develop a case where achievement means success in your own career because I know that the success of their children is one of the biggest achievement that parents always dream of.
Kya unhe sab mil jaata hai ?
